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Laos is a landlocked country in Southeast Asia, boasting rich cultural heritage and traditions. Of the many cultural practices of Laos, wedding ceremonies hold a special place, as they reflect not only the union of two individuals but also that of families and communities. These ceremonies are deeply symbolic, filled with rituals that ensure a harmonious and prosperous married life.
Tradition Laotion wedding (Source: Jclao)
Customarily, marriages among the Laotians are arranged, particularly by families in rural settings where much communal bonding exists. Love marriages are becoming common these days, but the involvement of parents in matchmaking is essential. In the past, parents considered a number of things, such as family background and social status, and even astrological harmony of individuals, before giving consent to a union.
This was done to ensure stability, compatibility, and prosperity for the couple. Most often, Lao men get permission from a woman's family first before proposing. This is usually done in the form of a formal visit, referred to as "Sin Sot", whereby the groom's family is presenting gifts and a bride price as a respect gesture to the bride's family. The size of a bride price would depend on various factors, including the bride's education, social status, and family background.
Arranged Marriages in Lao tradition (Source: Jclao)
Pre wedding customs involve, before a wedding takes place: young men and women usually get to know through social gatherings or through events held at temples, or village fairs. Courting is a very private thing, with discreet courtship. In more conservative families, the elders facilitate it.
Once both families agree to marry, the engagement ceremony follows. This is typically a formal meeting between the families where the groom's family goes to the bride's house to discuss matters regarding the wedding. They usually invite a spiritual leader or an elder to bless them for a prosperous life. At this time, the two families discuss matters relating to the dowry and fix an auspicious date for the wedding.
Engagement Rituals (Source: imagesbynic)
In some areas of Laos, a tradition apparently involved a man "stealing" his bride to be, at least symbolically, later with an appeal to the family for acceptance. This custom has fallen away significantly and is considered outdated by most.
The most important part of a Lao wedding is the Baci Ceremony, also called Sou Khuan, meaning "the calling of the spirits." This ceremony is meant to restore harmony and balance by calling back the wandering spirits, drawing from animist beliefs. Lao people believe that a person's soul consists of 32 spirits that need to be reunited for prosperity and happiness.
The couple, dressed in their best traditional Lao attire, will sit beside a beautifully adorned Pha Khouan during the Baci, a bunch of flowers and banana leaves. Tied around the wrists of both bride and groom, white cotton strings are blessed by the chanting elder or spiritual leader, known as Mor Phon.
Mor Phon in Lao wedding (Source: PullmanLuangPrabang)
These strings signify unity, protection, and good wishes from families and friends by tying strings and giving one's blessings while whispering good wishes to the newlyweds.
The food and drinks are placed on the Pha Khouan, along with other symbolic items, boiled eggs, and sticky rice, which denote fertility, longevity, and prosperity. The couple then shares a meal with the two families to confirm communal bonds.
Pha Khouan in Lao wedding (Source: PullmanLuangPrabang)
At the wedding, the bride should wear an exquisite sinh, a hand woven silk skirt together with a beautifully embroidered choli and a sabai, or sash, draped over the shoulder. The hair is typically done up into an elegant chignon, sometimes attached with gold ornaments and flowers. Any gold ornaments are assumed auspicious, like necklaces, bracelets, and earrings.
The bridegroom is dressed in a Salong, the traditional Lao trouser costume, while the bride wears a silk jacket or a white shirt with a sash. The color coordination of their outfits often reflects cultural preference and the blessing of the wedding day.
Traditional Lao Costumes (Source: OCWP)
After the Baci ceremony, other rituals of marriage continue. The most appreciated custom is the "Wai", where the bride and groom give respect to the elders and parents by bowing with their hands pressed together in a prayer-like gesture. It is an act of gratitude and filial piety.
The groom’s family presents gifts to the bride’s family, reinforcing social and familial ties. In return, the bride's parents offer advice and blessings to the couple, sharing wisdom for a successful marriage.
Groom and bride bowing their hands (Source: impactwedding)
The vow exchange is a very important part of the wedding, which may be performed in a Buddhist temple or at home with a monk's blessing. Though not legally binding, monks perform prayers to invoke happiness and prosperity upon the couple.
After the rituals, the wedding becomes very colorful and vibrant, as traditional Lao music and dancing begin. Traditional Lao Lamvong includes a slow, graceful circle dance that forms part of the wedding celebration. Feasting, drinking Lao Lao, and a generally festive atmosphere that runs well into the night make for great enjoyment among the guests.
Colorful wedding in Laos (Source: LaoWedding)
After marriage, usually, the bridegroom has to stay with the bride's family for a short period just to show respect and commitment. This is known as "Mat Phao", it enables him to get closer to his wife's family and prove that he can take good care of his wife.
In some, they have to be confined to the house without leaving it for three days as a sign of starting their life in peace and harmony. The elders visit them frequently to give them advice and also to see how well they will match with each other.
Post wedding traditions (Source: FreshNews)
Read more: Traditional Baci ceremony in Laos
Nevertheless, all these traditional customs in Lao have been influenced by the forces of modernization and globalization. Presently, most city couples hold weddings complete with Western style receptions, wedding cakes, formal suits, and sumptuous banquet halls. They then often incorporate the Baci ceremonies and traditional blessings into modern weddings.
Intercultural marriages are now common, with many Lao couples incorporating aspects from multiple cultures. Even with these adaptations, however, respect, spirituality, and community involvement remain significant components of the Lao wedding celebration.
Preserving Lao wedding customs is a precious thing (Source: ssndesign)
Dress Respectfully in Traditional or Formal Attire: Lao weddings are always elegant affairs, and dressing accordingly is a respect given to the bride, groom, and their families. If possible, wear traditional Lao attire: women can wear a Sinh (silk skirt) with a matching blouse, while men can wear Salong, or traditional trousers, with either a formal shirt or a jacket.
Participate in the Baci Ceremony & Wrist Tying Ritual: One of the most important parts of a Lao wedding is the Baci ceremony, and guests are often invited to participate. When tying white cotton strings around the couple's wrists, provide an actual blessing or words of good wishes.
Be Ready to Celebrate with Food, Drinks, and Dance: Lao weddings are really alive and vibrant! Food will be served, including all the traditional dishes like sticky rice, grilled meats, papaya salads, and Lao noodle soups. Plenty of Lao Lao (rice whiskey) is served, but guests should drink in moderation while making toasts to the newlyweds.
Lao weddings are not about the union between two people but bring together families and communities. At its core lies spirituality, respect, and tradition, which in aggregation add to the grip of harmony, prosperity, and family relations. Understanding these traditions with Asia King Travel gives insight into deeply embedded values where marriage is not an event but a serious spiritual and social commitment.
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